Dog owning is a relationship. Dogs are group beings that are very closely associated to the wolf and to the wild dog. They are genetically programmed for both harmonious coexistence within a close knit group community, and for survival. In other words, for both hunting for their food, for danger and protecting their turf, as well as for love, loyalty, compassion, and caring for one other within loving mutually supportive families under a trusted leader. There is a moral code that is strictly adhered to, and political power play is expressed according to very rigid and complex rituals.
These communities are well structured in a very similar way to a human society. Indeed, all group systems function according to the same basal universal principles, such as: unity is strength; leaders lead by example; the survival of a society depends on cooperation among its members; children are reared within families and their parents are their role models. Environmentalists have noted that when food is adequate, wild dogs well feed their puppies before the adults eat and even care for their weaker members. A pack of dogs is in fact a cameo of an ideal group system.
Dog owning is a unique connection in that it exists between two dissimilar species (cano-sapiens, and homo-not-so-sapiens) - who each speak a dissimilar language. Members within a pack of wolves and dogs recap with one other through the use of a very developed networking system of body signals, nuances, ego jostling... And when we learn to understand these easy and natural signals, we are able to control and enjoy our dogs to the full.
A pack of dogs is a group system that is interconnected with the politics of leadership, the group cement of love, the protocol of respect, and the networking of non verbal transportation among the pack, in a very mutually synergistic manner, which has enabled them to exist through countless centuries in a kill or be killed, eat or be eaten environment, where unity and close cooperation are vital for their survival.
We make a very big mistake when we disjunction dogs from reality, creating long term problems for both ourselves and our dogs. Instead of trying to inflict our own logic onto our dogs, when we shift our perspective and look at the world and at ourselves and our actions through the eyes of our dog - then bingo, dog owning becomes a mutually improving taste - the way dogs within a pack are designed to enrich one another's lives with love, loyalty, trust, respect...
Alpha power is won through complex ritualistic power play and ego jostling - which is remarkably similar to that of humans. The work on gained through this power play is far more suited than instilling fear of punishment into our best friends. So when we try and inflict our own human logic onto our dogs, we jam up their finely tuned instincts and stifle their true personalities and label the consequences "no ears", etc. Which are, in reality, merely a succeed of a one sided connection in the culture clash of domestication. So what is the solution?
Simple. All wholesome relationships are built nearby meeting one other half way. Dogs are not the only aliens that we find ourselves having to live with. We also coexist with other aliens - toddlers, teenagers, the opposite sex, other cultures, cats, a parrot or two... None of whom are on the selfsame wave length as ours. How then, do we meet our dog half way?
On our side - we
- learn their language;
- meet their needs;
- allow them to be who they are.
in order to support them to adjust to domestication and our life style, and develop their full character potential.
And on their side, they
- live by our ground rules,
- protect us (or at least show loyalty),
- respect our possessions and visitors, etc., (etc.)
then dog owning cannot be more mutually enriching! Sounds easy? You know why? Because it is. It is man who complicates things! Nature is all the time simple. And this is an ideal that every dog owner can achieve!
The thrilling and empowering connection that this mind shift gives us adds an extra size to the very extra connection that we have with our four legged family members - plus giving us more control over them. It enables us to enrich and to enhance one another's lives. Most of us own dogs to be our friends, companions - and children. Yes, many families that even have six (or more) children - their dog is still their child to them. (So they tell me.) And if you treat your dog like a child, because he is designed to live within a family, he is adequate to naturally slot into our two legged families. All we have to do is make dogsense (not nonsense) to them!
But remember, dogs are not babies! Babies are helpless, children aren't. And there is Nothing helpless about a dog! Not even about a puppy! (They did a Leadership course in their litter.)
So here we have a dog that is designed to live within a family, to abide by a spoton moral code, under the direction of a loved and trusted leader; and to recap with the other pack members with their very developed transportation system; who are made for loyalty, devotion, compassion, caring, love... And it is our identification with these parallels within our own group system (albeit subconscious - on our part, anyway) that draws us to one another.
Now once we have achieved this wholesome connection with our dogs, through achieving a 50/50 relationship, then there will be no more raised voices, chewed objects, messing inside, pulling on the lead, barking for nothing, jumping on visitors. Just Nature's ideal of a loving, mutually cooperative and loyal group system. Which is what we got our dogs for! And which is what they are made for! - because dogs are born with a desire to please the Captain of their team. We just need the key to unlock this potential. And that key is - the Law of the Jungle. So let's go to mother Nature (who wrote the traditional study book within the dogs' Dna.) And you will see it work right in front of your eyes. Not unlike speaking Chinese to a Chinese person.
Relationships (in both the green and the concrete jungle) are built nearby trust, transportation and cooperation. However, there are 6 vital steps we have to take in order to achieve this goal. Once we have taken these steps in our connection with our dog - he will have the safety of having his needs met and of being understood, and we will have the control that we are seeing for and the enrichment that dogs bring into our lives.
And these are the Six Steps to Love:
1) No one thinks about love when they are in survival. Natural Dog Training teaches dog owners how to get their dogs out of survival mode so that they can join on love, affection, protection, obedience, etc.
2) There is no love where there is civil war. So when we have established a wholesome power platform, our wish will be their command.
3) People abuse population they love - but not population they respect. So respect is even more suited than love! The way to earn our dog's respect is not to allow him to control to us. Then we have earned his respect naturally by not being his doormat. (Remember - dog owning is a relationship.)
4) Trust. We can love person and not trust them, and we can trust person and not love them. Love comes easy - trust, like respect - is earned.
5) It is difficult to have a wholesome connection with person we cannot understand. So we learn the very easy Language of the Pack to help our dog adjust, fit in and cooperate with us.
6) Then, ah at last.... Now you are at "love"!! But like in all relationships, parameters need to be kept in place, (after all, they are only human). In other words - you treat him like a child.
Because that is what our dogs are - our children.
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